Chivalry Mode

We’re introducing Chivalry Mode, a new opt-in experience on Upward designed to make dating feel more intentional, with committed profiles, respectful first moves, and a no-ghosting standard.

What is Chivalry Mode?

Chivalry Mode is a new dating experience on Upward for people who want a more intentional way to connect.

Who can join Chivalry Mode?

Anyone can join Chivalry Mode if they meet the eligibility requirements.

To join, you’ll need all 3 of the following:

• A complete profile with all required fields filled out.
• A verified profile with photo verification completed.
• Your Core Values section is completed on your profile.

How do I join?

You can join during onboarding or later from the Chivalry Hub, as long as you meet the eligibility requirements.

Where can I find Chivalry Mode in the app?

You can switch between Chivalry Mode and For You using the dropdown at the top of Discover.

What is the Chivalry Hub?

The Chivalry Hub is a place in the app where enrolled users can see their status and review the eligibility standards.

How does messaging work in Chivalry Mode?

Chivalry Mode was built with the Upward community and the spirit of traditional courtship in mind. It’s where men are expected to take the lead and make the first move. That’s the experience Chivalry Mode’s norms and community expectations reflect. That said, there are no restrictions on who can send the first message. 

In Chivalry Mode, the  “Your Turn” / “Their Turn” inbox indicator is a prompt to encourage the traditional courtship dynamic–not a technical restriction. Any matched user is free to initiate the conversation in Chivalry Mode, regardless of their gender or who they’re hoping to meet on Upward. Chivalry Mode is open to all users who meet the eligibility requirements.

How can I tell if someone is in Chivalry Mode?

Profiles enrolled in Chivalry Mode will display a badge.

This makes it easy to see who has chosen to follow Chivalry Mode standards.